Recent comments by presidential hopeful Michele Bachmann have stirred up the discussion about gay marriage once again. While speaking to a group of high school…
File this under, “Shocker!” And I promise not to do this very often, but I’m covering this news for a reason.
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TMZ, the famous celebrity stalker site is reporting that reality star Kim Kardashian filed for divorce from husband Kris Humphries after just 72 days of marriage. “Keeping Up With the Kardashians” executive producer Ryan Seacrest broke the news on Twitter.
“Yes @kimkardashian is filing for divorce this morning. I touched base with her, getting a statement in just a few mins.”
TMZ is suggesting the reason for divorce is because, “the couple were at odds over where to finally settle down. Humphries was reportedly passionate about settling down in his native Minnesota, and Kardashian simply wasn’t going for it.
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If you’ve followed this couple for any length of time, and I’ve seen them on magazine stands and watched ten minutes of their show, which just happened to be the moment he wondered if he was making a mistake in marrying her, you’ll know it was reality television. I have no judgment for Kim or Kris. They are free to do as they please. I don’t know if they staged the marriage or not. It’s possible that it was, and its possible that their love was real.
But there is an ironic twist to this whole thing. If it was real, than Kim has lost that love. And she’s the one who really suffers, to the tune of a broken heart and 10 million dollars (the cost of the wedding). If it’s not, than Kim has turned the idea of marriage into something that she’s willing to make a mockery of. I hope she got what she wanted.



I caught wind of this via social media today – Facebook or Twitter, I can’t really remember right now. But I only really noticed that this marriage went down the other day as I was standing in Target at the checkout line and I saw a headline with her photo on the cover one of the many copies of magazines shouting loudly at me, “look at me!”
I can’t help feel a sense of sorrow for the many who get entangled in the nasty web thinking that marriage is flippant. That it’s as passé as the yesteryear’s themselves. That divorce is truly an option.
It saddens me deeply to see so many take the attitude that a person’s heart – even their own – is disposable to some degree. That it can be written off somehow – even if only after 72 days.
Whatever the case, or situation, is (or was) between Kim and Kris…I sincerely hope they both find a lesson of truth out of this moment for their own lives.
Marni, I think you’ve made a distinction that resonates with me. If this was a sham, she’s made marriage disposable, which means it’s not very meaningful. And I get the same vibe. “Look at me!”
It stings a little bit to read this. Not because she divorced, but because the only thing I can when I see her wedding photos, if it was a sham, how could she do that? I always played dress up as a girl, and so if it was a sham it was just one more production to smile and look pretty at. But how could see look at herself in the mirror while wearing that wedding dress and do that? For me, my wedding was such an intimate reflection moment about myself and where my life was going. The dress begged a question of me that I really had to make sure I could answer the right way. I mean, as I turned the corner and looked my soon-to-be husband in the eye, the words “This is it” flung themselves all through my body. In that moment I wasn’t able to pretend anymore. It was me, the dress holding me to my promise, and my husband.
For me to get married as a publicity stunt… It would take a serious blind eye and some anesthetizing of what I know to be true.
So on one hand, I’m not surprised in the least. It’s one more celebrity marriage that fell apart. One more picture in the gallery of “Shortest Celebrity Marriages”. I don’t even care that they got divorced because I know they don’t take it seriously, so I’m not offended when they don’t.
I just don’t know how a girl could look at her wedding-dressed self and do that. I couldn’t have. All the hopes, dreams, tears, work, love, and effort leading up to that moment, only to earn money from it? I would have to be very numb and pretend that for me, as a woman, that moment was worth nothing.
One of my friends on Facebook who recently got married just made a joke in her status saying “I love married life! Looking forward to the next 72 days…”
She got lots of lolz and hahahas. But then there was one comment that read “Well if I got a 2 million dollar ring, it would totally be worth it. If not, i guess I’ll just have to keep toughing married life out.”
In mind mind I was like: “…”
Seriously? Is marriage so cheap these days to only be worth a couple of millions to people? Is that lifelong commitment really such a joke? I guess divorce statistics speak to that.
This neither surprises me or makes me feel sorry for her in any way. But. It does make me incredibly sad that marriage, is yet again, treated like nothing more than an old sock to be tossed away at the first sign of a hole. Whether it was real for her or just a publicity stunt, it’s the same. Knowing the immense amount of joy that my own marriage gives me and the amount of work and commitment that we put into our relationship, it just makes me ill that other people treat this like dirt. I almost take it kind of personally. Almost. Not quite. ;D
You see this? This is my surprised look. :-0